A Guide to Divorce and Custody in Connecticut
By Attorney Renee C. Berman
A Guide to Divorce and Custody in Connecticut

The Effects of Divorce on Your Health Insurance


I recently had a client call me in a panic because her husband threatened to remove her from his health insurance when he was served with the divorce papers. Once a divorce is officially filed in Superior Court, automatic orders are entered which are designed to maintain the status quo until the parties are divorced or they are modified by court order.  In that regard, one spouse cannot remove the other spouse from his or her health insurance absent court order.

Once a divorce is granted, the ex-souse can remain eligibile to participate on the other party's health insurance plan through COBRA (short for the Consolidated Omnibus Budget Reconciliation Act).  COBRA provides a vital bridge between health insurance plans for qualified workers, their spouses, and their dependent children when their health insurance might otherwise be cut off.  When a spouse notifies his or her employer of the divorce, the employer will send a notice to the family member on the policy informing them of their right to COBRA coverage. If you qualify for COBRA benefits, your health plan administrator must give you notice stating your right to choose to continue benefits provided by the plan.  Typically, you then have 60 days to accept coverage or lose all rights to the benefits.  Since COBRA benefits are meant to be short-term, the ex-spouse will want to consider securing another health insurance policy.  Keep in mind that often COBRA is very expensive.

If you have children and both parents have insurance coverage, it does not make sense to name children on both group plans and pay for two separate family coverages. If you can work through these issues amicably, the two of you should decide which group plan offers the best benefits for your children and put your children on that plan.  Remember that notices about changes in benefits and rules will be mailed to the parent who holds that plan, even if the other parent has custody.

Before You File For Custody...

If you are contemplating filing for custody of your children, take a deep breath and contemplate the following suggestions before you make the next move:

  • Make an appointment for a consultation with a family attorney before you do anything. Even if you do not end up hiring an attorney to handle your case, the attorney can offer you advice about the law as it applies to your case and court procedure. Many attorneys offer free 1/2 hour to one hour consultations so ask when you make the appointment.

  • The Connecticut Court is going to look at what is in the "best interest of the child" before they make any decisions regarding custody. Take an honest look at what is in your child's best interest from the point of view of an objective person.

  • Figure out what your ideal parenting plan would look like; that means what would you like to see in terms of parenting responsibilities, regular schedules, vacation time, and decision making.

  • Do not EVER let your child know how much you dislike your child's other parent. You are the adult so act like one! If there is evidence that you disparage the other parent in front of your child, you will ruin your credibility in court and a judge may even give sole custody to the other parent.
  • When you do finally go to Court, respect the judge, respect the court staff, and (as hard as it might be) respect your child's other parent. If a judge is speaking to you, do not interupt him or her. You will have time to say what you want.

  • If a Guardian Ad Litem becomes involved in your custody dispute, cooperate with this person and make yourself accessible, return phone calls, be on time for appointments and court, and always be respectful. Remember, often judge's look to them for opinions about what is in your child's best interest.

  • From the moment you contemplate commencing a custody action, gather evidence to use later on to support your case. Photographs of you and your child together, names and contact information of people who know you and your child, receipts from your outing at an amusement park, anything that will establish that you have an ongoing relationship with your child will be helpful.